Let’s just start with the truth:
You’re not lazy. You’re overwhelmed.

And I mean truly, deeply, mentally loaded to the max overwhelmed.

You’re running a business.
Managing the household.
Raising little people.
Keeping the family fed.
Tracking the laundry, the appointments, the birthdays, the bloody school dress-up days…

And somewhere in there?
You’re meant to be “productive.”
Focused. Consistent. Energetic. Showing up online with a glow and a caption ready to convert.

But you’re not lazy.
You’re just carrying too much.

What Most Productivity Advice Gets Wrong

Let’s be real – most productivity advice was written by men… for men.
It assumes someone else is doing the laundry.
It assumes the fridge just fills itself.
It assumes there’s a team of invisible people handling the background of life so you can stay “in flow.”

That’s not the reality for most women I know.
Even the ones with partners, VAs, and support systems are still the default organiser.
The one who remembers everything.
The one mentally holding every moving part.

Right now, while I’m literally writing this blog, I’m also remembering that I need to do a Woolies order so we have food tomorrow – because I sure as hell don’t have time to go to the shops.

And I wish I could say that’s unusual. But it’s not.

The Village is Gone. And the Expectation Has Tripled.

We weren’t meant to do this alone.
Raising kids, running businesses, caring for homes – it was never supposed to all fall on one person. But now? The village is gone.

And somehow, we’re expected to:

• Work full-time
• Run thriving businesses
• Raise kids
• Maintain relationships
• Meal plan, shop, cook
• Keep the house looking Insta-worthy
• Show up online
• And maybe meditate if there’s a spare five minutes

Of course you feel scattered.
Of course you feel behind.
You’re not broken. You’re doing too much without enough support.

What Helps (And What I’ve Learned)

I’ve had to build a system that works for me. One that supports the whole of my life – not just the business parts.

That’s why my entire life runs through ClickUp.
Yes – life.

Here’s what’s inside my ClickUp workspace:

• Our family schedule
• My business projects
• Meal plans + shopping list
• Future holidays and financial goals
• Client launches and content calendars
• Online order tracking
• Toby’s daycare notes
• My brain. All of it.

It’s not fancy. It’s not colour-coded perfection.
But it means I have one place to hold everything – and that alone helps me breathe.

And honestly? If I could figure out how to automate my shopping list from ClickUp into Woolies, I think I’d cry from joy.

It’s Not About Doing More. It’s About Holding Less.

This isn’t a blog about productivity hacks.
It’s a permission slip.

You don’t need to “get it together.”
You don’t need to wake up earlier or hustle harder.

You need a system that supports your brain.
One that holds your tasks, plans, reminders, and ideas – so you don’t have to.

Because it’s not the to-do list that’s exhausting.
It’s the constant remembering.
The invisible mental labour.
The weight of trying to hold everything in your head, all the time.

3 Gentle Ways to Start Easing the Load

1. Choose one place to keep everything
   → Whether it’s ClickUp, Notion, or a paper planner – pick one, and commit. Stop spreading your brain across 7 apps.
2. Name the mental load
   → Write it all down. The life stuff, the biz stuff, the partner reminders. Seeing it on paper shows you it’s not laziness – it’s capacity.
3. Automate one small thing
   → Could be a recurring reminder, a meal plan template, or even a “repeat every week” task. One automation = one less thing to carry.

You’re Not Lazy. You’re Incredible.

You’re doing the work of five people – and you’ve convinced yourself you’re failing.
But what if the real problem isn’t you?

What if the real problem is that you were never meant to hold this much alone?

This is why I build systems with my clients – not just in business, but in life.
Because we need containers for our brilliance.
We need tools that lighten the load.
We need support that understands the whole of who we are – not just our calendar.

So please, be gentle with yourself.

You’re not lazy.
You’re carrying the world.
And you deserve a system that carries you for a change.